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Top 5 reasons why I loathe my favorite thing…FB

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Here is my love/hate relationship with Facebook:

Things I love: I absolutely ADORE Facebook because I can keep in touch with friends and family from far away. Share pictures of our families and learn a thing or two regarding their lives since I knew them back in the day. Because I moved around a lot during my school years, I would keep in touch with a few friends via snail mail and an actual phone call…but now, Facebook allows us to keep in such better touch and it feels like we’re actually a part of each others lives. I also enjoy when someone is public and I can spend (waste) 30 minutes looking through wedding photos of people I don’t know; that’s always fun. And I also love to write dumb stuff for all to see. 🙂

But every day I see a status update that enters in to my TOP 5 things I loathe about my beloved Facebook. Yes, I’m aware that’s contradictory, but I bet you feel the same way!! Don’t lie.

Here they are:

1. Paparazzi people. You know, the ones who take pictures of unsuspecting people and post them with a rude caption. In example, someone posting a picture of a complete stranger in ill-fitting clothes and making a comment about how they resemble a farm animal. I don’t care WHAT they’re wearing, to take a photo of someone who has no idea you’re doing so and posting them on the internet is rude, disrespectful and I think a HUGE violation of privacy. Would I want someone to do this with me on my bad days and say something mean and hurtful? No way! I only want my family and I to be put on the web somewhere by MY hands only…or tagged by a friend of mine who has only good intentions. You guys need to really be considerate of other people and their privacy. It’s evil!

2. When people say FML. Really?!? Your life is SO bad you feel that a comment like that is warranted? Have you taken a good look at your life and realized that being out of coffee in the morning, your carpet cleaner being broken or your car getting a flat is worthy of an FML remark? “First, I didn’t wake up early enough for my bootcamp class. THEN, my Vitamix blender gave out at the same time the dog peed on my brand new $1000 rug! Later, Whole Foods was SO busy and can you believe they gave me a hard time about returning my supplement because I had used too much of it?!? FML!!” I would love to shake that person and say WAKE UP! There are nearly 1 BILLION people that go hungry in the world this very second you’re whining about Whole Foods being too busy! Did you also know that there are tens of thousands of children battling cancer this minute, which means there are twice that many parents who are devastated and live in fear that their sweet babies won’t survive?
You people have lost your perspective on life and of how blessed you truly are.

3. Cryptic statuses. For instance when someone writes, “Today was the hardest day in a long time. I wish I had more answers. :(“ Um. What in the WORLD are you talking about and if you’re not going to answer everyone’s questions asking if you’re fine, then WHY POST IT FOR ALL TO SEE? “I wish life had the answers to these tough times like today.” Cue floods of questions or comments like, “hugs. What’s wrong?” or “I’m here if you need something. Is everything ok?” “Yes, I just need positive thoughts.” “Thoughts and prayers are sent your way….what am I praying for?”  Holy cow.

4. Show-offs. People who come on ONLY to post something amazing. Another great example is when their page is like crickets for 3 months then they share a photo of their new Louis Vuitton purse from “THE BEST HUSBAND IN THE WORLD!” Wow. So that’s all you’ve wanted to share to your 350 friends in the past 3 months? To gloat? Wasn’t the last one, “Look at my new Mercedes!”? And before that it was Christmas time sharing with everyone your fabulous presents. Ok, we get it. Life is fantastic for you…..three times a year.

5. Taking credit for a famous quote. In no way, shape or form do your astute friends believe these are your words. The oblivious ones, maybe….

****Here’s an example: A man is but the product of his thoughts.  What he thinks, he becomes (then the person adds something of their own in the same sentence, “and today is another hard working Tuesday and I’m ready to rock it!”

Response: “Such wise words, so and so! I really needed to hear that today and you hit the nail on the head. Thanks for all of your wisdom.” So and so then responds with, “Thanks! Glad I could help.”
WHAT?!?! Put quotations marks around it and underneath give credit where credit is due. You know that one dude by the name of MAHATMA GANDHI! There’s only one Gandhi and you are NOT him. Or Henry David Thoreau, Maya Angelou, Jesus, Benjamin Franklin, John F. Kennedy, Dalai Lama etc, etc….
But as long as people are fueling the fire, there will always be these things in your newsfeed…so stop fueling them!!!

Well, this is MY list.  Did I miss anything? 😉


Doing the limbo

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Now don’t get all serious on me about this blog. Yes, the tone is a bit more serious than usual, but some of my intentions in writing this were more on the funny side as I chat about it with my friends and family.

Are we in limbo?

The definition of LIMBO according to Wikipedia: (I’ll take letter C. or D. please)

a : a place or state of restraint or confinement

b : a place or state of neglect or oblivion <proposals kept in limbo>

c : an intermediate or transitional place or state

d : a state of uncertainty

Not sure of the significance of this image….but I liked the hand pointing to “LIMBO LAND”, that’s all.

I ask this because everyone I know right now (including myself) is in this incessant waiting game. Waiting for employment. Waiting to start cancer treatments which will turn in to waiting to rid their bodies of it. Waiting for their home to be foreclosed on. Waiting to buy a home. Waiting for lawsuits, medical diagnosis, loved ones to fight their addictions, finishing their Master’s degree, for a divorce to be finalized, for finances to get better after a bankruptcy, etc, etc….Waiting for life to become “perfect”. Waiting, waiting and more waiting…with a side of waiting.

Yesterday morning I got a dose of perspective when one of my FB friends, whom I don’t know personally, lost her battle with ovarian cancer. She was a young mother and fought that cancer with the strongest determination. Of course I looked at HER battle from the outside looking in…but I was in the battle with my sister. My family and I fought that battle as much as we could with her and so much of those 13 months were spent WAITING. With biopsies, surgeries, tests, MRIs…we were constantly waiting for good news that we never got. Natalie’s battle ended after a short 13 months, but that was when the rest of the family’s battle continued. We’ve grieved going on 5 years and it’s a continued longing for her to be back here to mother her children, to hear her on the other end of the phone, to feel her grab at my arm and fall in to me while she’s laughing with the occasional snort.

It was the same with Jen. She went through clinical trials that people held fundraisers for and she tried every option imaginable to survive, flying all over the US to different experts. She was determined.  And now her battle is over after 14 months of an emotional and physical roller coaster, with her family now having to grieve the loss of her.

Why are some battles short, yet grueling and end early in life while others are drawn out over years and years, only to end the same way?

THIS IS MY KIND OF LIST! But totally unrealistic.

Are we here on earth to try and see how we handle life’s circumstances? To show God that we are strong and continue to grow in faith and follow the pursuit asked of us in order to make it in to heaven?

Why are we (humans) so fixated on the better picture? No, not bigger, but better. When will we get there? And when we’re there, will we even know? Will we sit back with pure joy and say, “I’m FINALLY here!!”? Or is that saved for the day we enter heaven?

Are those that leave earth early the lucky ones? The ones that are finally in the place that we strive to be in, but takes us possibly 90-100 years to get to? After that many years, the amount of sadness you will have endured in one lifetime is almost unfathomable. I look at my grandmother who lost 2 children in their adolescent and teen years, her parents, her husband, two grandchildren, one great-grandchild, a child in adulthood, a brother and a sister and numerous other factors that have caused her strength and faith to be tested, yet she remains solid and continues going about her days BECAUSE of her faith just knowing that one day she will be reunited with everyone…


I don’t mean to sound morose, because honestly it’s quite opposite. I’ve just been thinking through my personal waits (which are truly nothing major) and wondering if Tom and I should just move our family to a small town in Spain. Live humbly for the next 60 years and enjoy the heck out of this life that we have where I can say, “Wow, we made it to absolute happiness!”

Just wondering if this journey we’re on should be less of striving for great, better things and more of sitting back, enjoying the life that God has given us.

Food for thought.

Now I must get back to dealing with this real estate website that is going on 6 weeks to be developed…guess I’ll have to WAIT and see if it will be worth it. 🙂